Comments on: Not How It’s Supposed to Be

By: Dana Zia

Dana Zia — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 00:06:17 +0000

Ouch. I have twins, identical girls and they are now 23. I can’t imagine losing one so small and sweet. I am truly sorry for your friend’s loss. When friends of mine have lost their children, I have learned to spend time with them normally. What I mean by this is,we openly talk about loss, their lost child, how their flowers are growing, (usually not very well that first year) and the weather. The greatest gift you can give them is to treat them normal and not “Special.” Listen and love a lot. Good luck and blessings on Karen and her family.

By: cheryl

cheryl — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:49:39 +0000

Your post moves me to tears. I will read the follow-up about your visit in a moment…

By: Marta

Marta — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 17:47:58 +0000

A true frind knows exactly what the other person needs, cometimes it’s physical company, sometimes it’s spiritual support, other times a bowl of soup. Aside from knowing, a true friend knows when and how to deliver and fulfill the other person’s needs. You know what it beest for your dear friend and I’m glad you’re able to comfort her in her grief. You are a blessing for her.

By: Mara

Mara — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 23:13:06 +0000

So sorry to hear this. How unbelievably sad. Hope the hugs and smiles from you and your little sweetie pie brought some comfort.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 17:19:27 +0000

Sorry to hear about your friend’s baby. :(

By: holler

holler — Sun, 07 Jun 2009 08:26:48 +0000

That is so unbelievably sad. It is good that Karen has such a good friend in you and that she is able to open up to friends. It would be so easy to shut yourself away and shut down altogether.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 18:36:51 +0000

What a heartbreaking thing for a mother to endure. I’m sure Karen’s glad to have your friendship during times like these.
Some of your delicious food would surely bring some joy, too. Have a safe trip.

By: The Leftoverist

The Leftoverist — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 14:58:46 +0000

I’m so happy you can go and be with your friend. Sending lots of travel blessings your way.

By: lisaiscooking

lisaiscooking — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 13:13:02 +0000

That’s so incredibly sad. Hope you and your son have a lovely weekend.

By: HappyTummy

HappyTummy — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 10:37:13 +0000

Dana, my thoughts are with you and your friend Karen. So sorry for her loss. It’s wonderful that you and your son going to visit her–I’m sure it will be good for both her and her son.